How to be happy?

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Are you feeling down? Did you ever feel like you live alone although you are physically not alone?

We all have the 'phase' of life before, the 'dark phase'. 

Sometimes, even you open your eyes you can feel your heart is hurting and falling apart. No one deserve to feel like that. And you, who reading this now, deserve to be happy! But, the question remained. How? How to be happy when we are dealing with our pain inside? 

I have to admit, I am not a very strong person and I am not a professional in this field. I have troubles to be happy, too. I will also wish to be a kid again where all my trouble is to fall asleep. We grow both mentally and physically, turning into a more mature human being which we called 'adult'. I still remembered the desire of me wanted to be an adult so badly because all the beautiful shoes are made for the adults(since they have the money and also the power to control a kid like us). I like to think as being adult is the most fun thing to do. You can drive anywhere, buy stuffs you like, it's just the coolness and the power that attracts me. 

However, as I am growing(I am still growing), I don't think it's a good idea to be an adult. I finally realized that being a 'elder' person, doesn't mean you have more power, it simply means you have more responsibilities which I called it as stone you need to carry. As time passed by, more and more stone will be stack up and you will be struggling to carry them. Even though, I am only a teenager, I can feel it. Now, I think the adults are all very strong souls. Until now you don't understand, yet I know you can connect with what I wrote here.

So, after the long reading, I will now share what I do to feel happy! I can't tell you the exact way to feel happy but to share with you about my personal experiences that I learnt from everyone around me and from the books I read.

I know it's hard to be happy sometimes since no everyone can control their emotions perfectly. Sometimes, I just love to let it go. Let the feeling goes away, by expressing them. How I like to express them is by writing. I write all the bad and at the same times the good things. After I write down all the negative part, I will try as much as I can to write something positive. Something that I am grateful for, something that make me laugh that day. Or maybe an inspiring quotes. Now, when you are sad and you wanted to cry, don't hold the tears. Just let them flow out. This will definitely makes you feel better. 

Some good old methods will ask you to do something that you enjoy doing, for me, is watching youtube and reading books. It totally works! I mean something doing what you love, can be very inconvenient. So, I suggest breathing. Yes, a simple action like breathing can slow down everything inside you. Remember, take a few deep breathes to calm yourself down. Also, you may find that not very useful sometimes, but breathing can really make you feel less exhausted. 

Keep a journal. Okay, it might seems keeping a journal has nothing to do with being happy, even so it does! I love reading my old diary. This is mainly because I find that the 'old me' is very funny, smart, foolish and stubborn. I always has the 'What I am grateful for today' in my journal and I can invariably find a smile in my face unfailingly when I read it.

Enjoy those small moments in life that melt you heart. Do you ever just stop and watch the masterpiece of the nature, the sky? Do you ever notice how beautiful and breathtaking are the sunrise and sunset? Do you cherish the moment before? The moment when you see your dog yawning and stretching it's back. The shadow of your mum cooking for you and the moment when a baby hold your finger with their tiny little fingers. I always smile when I saw a cute little baby. Simple things like this can make me really enjoy my day! I will be happy even my favorite singer or youtuber upload a new video. Click here to read a old blog post of me sharing some youtube channel that make me laugh!

Take a shower or a bath. A warm and nice bath is my personal favorite. Everyone knows that we tend to think a lot during shower time. The steam of the lukewarm water always calm me down. When I am in a huge problem, I like to have a cold water shower, to wake me and my soul up. 

Being with friends will absolutely cheer you up! Believe it or not, when you are around with your friends, you will have a better mood. And lastly, happiness is from your heart. If you decide to be happy, you will. No one can really help you to be happy, if you don't want to. It's the matter of your mind. Just don't let the pain you are feeling now to take over you. 

Top fashion, beauty yet inspiring blog I love

First of all, I know, it's had been a very long while since I last write a blog post. Maybe you don't even care about it but I did. I need to apologize about it.

To be honest, I haven't had much time to write as I am so busy with my own life recently. Blog is a place where you can share about stuff you like but nowadays, blog has been faded away so quickly like the smoke after the fireworks. Who has the time to read a blog when you can get the same information through tv or videos? I need to admit that I am also a huge fan of YouTube and that I always watch youtube's videos. Still, I enjoy reading blog. Sometimes, I just love to see the design of the blogs, it's like an art for me.

I love love to see the lookbook in every blog as they describe perfectly and sharing some useful tips, too. Also, some blogs can be very inspiring and motivate you to do something you never ever think of.


Here, I have few to share, check them up and send them some love :)

Kristen Hedges

I get to know her because of free people's blog. Love her blog post as I feel the connection between us. She is a writer, yogi and meditation instructor. 

"Because for now, there's nothing to do but move forward." - Kristen Hedges

Free People
Hands down my favorite blog ever! The free people's community  creates the best reading material and provide the most useful knowledge and ideas to share with people all around the world. Free People is a clothing store but yet they have the best inspiring blog posts that I loved the most. They invites me to explore the world in an adventurous way.

"Stay close to what keeps you alive." - free people

LOOKBOOK.nu

Okay, you probably knows what the blog about by the title of it, however I will still gonna tell you what it's about. Maybe you already knew this site but I will love to share this blog to the other people out there who declare that they are fashionista! This place is amazing of the feeling of 'real' in it. Often, we see the model wears the most beautiful outfit but at this place, we, the 'usual' people, can also pull off cool street style! You can get tons and tons of outfit ideas at here.

WhoWhatWear.com

Ever wonder what to wear for a wedding dinner? Or how to style that short shorts you bought? 

This website is the ultimate guide for all the fashion  trends and news. You can simply 'get the looks' of various gorgeous outfit which inspire by the celebrities!

Nouvelle Daily

If you need something to read daily, here is something for you. Their blog page is absolutely beautiful and yet simple. They wrote review on products they used, things that inspire them, recipe, music, DIY and all beauty related stuff. You can get a little of everything at there! 

Zoella

She is a lovely beauty youtuber. She shares her lifetime story and some beauty related post there. Need me to say more? Check her youtube channel here :)

If you're someone that busy and ain't no time to read and check out those blogs one by one everyday, then I think bloglovin is your choice! They collect all the feed from the blog you like and it saves your time just like that! Follow me on bloglovin to see what I love!

I think I pretty much cover the whole things. But I will like to share a quote which I take from Free People's blog that I love to all of you who reading this...

"Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it"

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Why Are You So Skinny And Tall?

Okay, not going to lie or anything, I kinda steal this title from Zoella. If you don't know her yet,  she is a famous British beauty YouTuber. I mean her videos are good! I got inspired by her from her old video which had the same title of this blog post. That's the reason why I said I kinda steal this title from her.

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Do you ever wondering why someone can be so skinny and tall at the same time?

First of all, I had been categorized as the 'skinny' one ever since I could remember. I know it's not like a bad thing being skinny but the thing is people keep reminding me that I am so skinny and needed to put some weight on because they think that is not healthy. Sometimes, I am proud of my body but sometimes I am annoyed by it. In my opinion, skinny doesn't mean that you're unhealthy. As long as my body is functioning well, I will considered myself as a healthy person.

Of course, maybe you think that I overreacted on it since it is not a big deal. Yeah, it's not a big deal when I was skinny and short because people think that skinny+short = normal. However, when I hit puberty, and I grow taller, people start questioning about me. The short girl suddenly turns into a tall one. And trust me, I didn't get any surgery done with my legs. I just grow! They just didn't get that. I don't mean it's rude to ask questions like, "Why are you so tall?" "Why are you so skinny?". It's not rude, it's annoying. These questions have been the most frequent questions I received. Imagine that every friends you met asked you the exact same thing, how do you feel? Proud? Happy? Angry? Nah, I feel annoyed. Sometimes, I tend to come up with a creative answer. For example,

"Why are you so skinny and tall?"

"It's because I went to korea for some leg surgery to make it longer, it's quite cheap, do you want to go? I can give you some recommendations."

Yup, that's how I really answered them. They knew I am messing around with them but still I think they preferred this answer a little more. 

"Does your mum or your dad are tall and skinny too?"

"My mum does, my dad doesn't"

"I get it! You're tall because of your mum is tall and skinny!"

My friends like to said it's because of genetic. But I mean, everything can be the factors. What you eat, how is your body system works and how often you exercises are some other factors. If you keep eating and don't exercise at all, you might just get larger and larger. That's a cruel truth but you need to accept it. The thing is that answering those questions is like asking why my I had two hands and two eyes. People don't ask those questions because they get used to it. In other words, it's normal to have two eyes and two hands, so it's a no brainer people will asked these questions. Don't get me wrong, I am not here to show off my so called perfect height, but I am here to discuss with you what I feel about it.

Now, imagine someone asked you why do you have two eyes, what will be your answer? I will probably ask them to ask the god. Because I was born like that. The same thing goes to why I am so tall. I can't control my body to grow taller, and if you ask me how I get taller and taller, I will said that I hit my puberty. I mean I don't have any secrets to grow so tall. Yeah, some said that you will get taller if you play basketball but I didn't. I guess I might grow even taller if I played it(haha). The truth is that I am once a short girl, so I know the feelings of being a short and a tall girl. People like to make fun of my height when I was short but let me tell ya, people still make fun of you even you're taller than them. It's a same difference.

Being tall and skinny as a girl always make people asked me to become a model. And what people can really talks about me is about my body shape. If you asked me to chose my height, I will probably chose my height now(taller than the average). A fun fact I want to share is that, when I was short, I got a good reason to squish into the first row to see some performances. But when I was taller, I don't get the reason to watch the show at the front however I am already tall enough to see it from the back. Both of them have their benefits and weaknesses. 

Let's continue to the skinny part. How I feel about skinny? I mean it's normal and many people around you are skinny. I don't mean you're unusual if you not the skinny type. Occasionally, skinny people had a lot of problems too. Because I am too skinny when I was 13 or 14 years old, I could not find jeans or any other pants that fit me. I need to buy from kids section and even more embarrassing is that the jeans had the label 'kids' there. Yup, I had been wearing those kids jeans until I am good enough to buy from regular adult section(a big high-five if you know how I felt). A teenager standing at kids section to pick up some pants, hmm so awkward. I don't even allowed to go on the roller coaster because I was too short and too thin. Maybe you think it's normal, but I don't.  As good as you think a skinny and tall people's life could be, there's still something good you can found in your's. A tall height can give advantages and also disadvantages. But never underestimate of what you can do in you life. Don't live in others words, live the way you like. 

"It's not who we are that hold us back; it's who we think we are not" - Michael Nolan.

You can get slim or put on weights if you want. Trust yourself. 

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Must-have shoes!!!

What's the big matter or shoes? I mean shoes can basically spice up your look! Or just enhance your look!
A perfect pair of shoes doesn't just come along with your outfit but it also brings out your personalities. But for a honest advice, don't judge a person by their shoes. That will be so rude and bad. I mean don't you ever forced to wear some sort of ugly shoes when you're young? I am so embarrassed by the fact that I need to wear the very childish shoes that my mum picked up for me when I was 12, I think. I would like some understanding back then (haha). You can't even imagine how old-fashion was that shoes to me when I was then. Yup, it sucks. Luckily, I don't need to wear shoes that my mums bought for me now. I will choose myself!

As a teen, I had been wanted to try a whole loads of heels. Testing out the right pair of shoes that fit me. For me, I like shoes that are comfortable. I won't buy a pair of shoes that are no comfy to me. Of course, I love, love beautiful shoes. A pair of heels or boots will be my favorite! A fun fact about me is that I am quite tall, so my friends don't like me to wear heels. I, myself feels that I am a giant when I wore one. I'll be the tallest girl in the mall even I wore an one inch platform. I want to clear up that I am not that tall, I am just higher that the average.

Enough of the story! Okay, let's get straight into the shoes heaven!
Most of my favorite pick had been featured at the older outfit of the day series (1, 2, 3, 4)! Be sure to check them out for more!
I will choose some shoes that  I like from dailylook, asos, forever21, choies, zara and urban outfitters!

This edgy series is by far my fav!

First of all, you will notice the black element ah-gain! Hey, don't judge me just because I chose black! I love black shoes as it won't get dirty so easily. Plus, black goes with anything, right? If you want some power in your look, add one of these! Ever wondering what shoes to wear with that dress or that clothes? Easy, pick up a black boots and you're good to go!

The first pair of the boots are Jeffrey Campbell Who's next platform ankle boots from urban outfitters. Love the cut out at the side and it goes will with the skinny jeans! Doesn't it looks like a spy kinda shoes? Maybe not XD.

Then, we have a pointed cut out flats from choies. I love the 'pointed' part of the shoes as I think it makes the whole outfit more 90's. I had noticed that the pointed shoes is back to the trend, so I chose them. Besides, I love the metal lock which is very detail and unique. 

Below the first picture, we have the gladiator-look-alike-buckled platform from forever21. I am guessing that no everyone like to put a knee high gladiator, so I chose this as alternatives! This is cool and function as a sandals, too! No worry of the boiling temperature at your feet!

Right underneath it is leather moccasin with chains from zara. Okay, when I first look at this, I know that this shoes will totally get a lot of wear. It is not a heel nor a flats. It gives you a little bit of height and a sense of classiness. I love the fact that it has chains since it adds a stronger feels to your look. 

At the right of it is this buckled cut out boots from choies. This is the one! You know the one you can wear anywhere! You dress it up or dress it down with this. It is awesome because of the rose gold buckle. 

These shoes is kinda fancy but I think it's so suitable for daily wear!

I suggest you to wear a dress, a midi skirt or a maxi skirt with them!

First stop, we got this pink wedges from asos. It's summer! And everybody need a wedges during summer! It is self'-explanatory!

Next, this pastel green leather lace up shoes from choies. I think color shoes is kinda hard to match. Anyway, I try to pick up a color shoes that I loved. This lovely green color totally shout summer in my face! And the pastel color make it very girly and chic. 

Beside of this lace up shoe, we got this MAFIA loafers from asos. I didn't realized that it is kinda similar with one of the type 2 style shoes. Maybe because I like it so much that I decided to choose another similar pair but in different color. I think is the color if this shoes that attract me. I like silvery color, so it is a no wonder I will chose this. 

Right underneath the green lace up shoes, we have this nice rose gold cut out platform. Yup, it's the color too! I seldom see a rose gold platform, so I chose it without any hestitation. 

Finally, the last stop, this leather platform from choies. I like the chunky platform. And I love the white although I think it will get dirty easily. A great care is much needed for this shoes.

Deal with Fam = deal with the familiar. 

What is a must-haves when you don't have the classic?

I guess I don't need to explain about the the black high top converse. So, I will skip it. 

We will start form the top, the white sandals from asos. It's summer and ain't nobody want their legs wrapped fully in their shoes, right? Right? Sandals+white=classy

Below of it, we have Julio leather caged flat sandals which again from asos. I don't know why it's 'Julio' but I am sure you can google it if you're wondering. I love the ankle strap and the neutral color of it. It will be nice to pair with floral prints!

Next stop, everyday buckled boots from forever21. I just love the straps that wrap up the lace up boots. It is not black, so I guess it is much more suitable for day wear. I will totally rock this with a boyfriend jeans. 

Lastly, T-strap Mary Jane from urban outfitters. This can creates a cute look and it is so girly. Flats, can be so much easier to walk compare to heels. Although some of you may recommend wearing heels the whole day but kindly give your feet some rest by wearing a flat. Plus, this is somewhat classic and stylish.

As I mentioned before, all of the items shown above can be found easily at dailylook, asos, forever21, choies, zara and urban outfitters. I am not sponsored or anything! :)

Hope you enjoy! Have a nice day!

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What to do when you're alone

Alone.

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The word itself sounds miserable, don't it?
But for me, it seems normal. Maybe you might be the one who sitting alone in the cafeteria, maybe you're home alone, maybe you're just tired of the public and want some space.
For me, I do not enjoyed the time when I am 'alone' at first. Yeah, 'at first'. I hate the feeling that seeing someone got so busy, like what the hell they're all doing without me. "Am I the only one who felt left out?", I asked myself. "Am I not cool enough for them?" The questions went on and on.

I still remember that on one year when I felt like I had no real friends. I mean like those whose do things with you together. I was abandoned. I was alone. I am not going to lie, it felt hard and terrible. Others that I so called friends were all in their gang already. I know there are kids out there facing the same problems but let me tell ya, you're not alone. Yup, it's easy to say so. I am alone is not because of friends fight or anything negative. I guess I just chose to be alone. I know I might sound stupid with "I chose to be alone thing-y". Still, I am guessing now that my brain just tired of that group thing. You know, when you get to a point where you need to rest? Yup, I was at that point at that moment.

Alone, is not a problem. It's kinda amazing. Okay, I know you maybe thinking I am weird now but obviously that's really how I feel now. When you're alone, you don't need to bother about how others think of you and how they said about you. There will be moments when you're sitting with your friends and you just sitting there because you don't know what to talk. You have no topic with them. You're not misplaced or disconnected with them, it's that people are made to be different. Sometimes, this moment can be really awkward as there are no sounds except your breathing sounds. You try to think a topic to talk with he/her to stay away from that deadly silence and the awkwardness. Do you get what I mean already? Being alone, has benefits too. You don't need to think extra hard and crack your brain to prevent the awkwardness. Plus, you don't need to struggle with your friends and eventually bring out a fight.

"What is that word again?"
"Alone??"
"That's what loser does!"

You might think like that but really it's not. Even the popular celebrities will have time when they're alone. It's just that you didn't had the chance to see it. You can practice to be alone. I bet it doesn't sound hard to you. But having the guts to be alone is not simple. People might think you're some socially awkward kids. Hey, don't get me wrong, sometimes I used to think that alone is cool but sometimes I think that person who sit there alone is creepy. You might feel the same way, too. You can really do what you want when you're alone. When nobody is there watching you, when you're free from the world for awhile. You can finally scratch your nose when you're alone since you're too embarrassed to do it at the crowd. I am not here to encourage you to be alone, I am just saying that alone can be totally fine. I am alone and I am alive!

But, what do you do when you're alone?
Or what can you do when you're alone?

Things to do:
1. Reading
I will say, reading. I escape the all social thing by reading a book. No one will want to disturb me when I am reading. When I am tired of talking, I read. Is not like, I hate that person, and when she is talking, I will read. No, it doesn't work that way. Sometimes or many times, reading save me from awkwardness. When you have the sudden silence after a conversation, or someone just leave the conversation after we're finished talking. Or maybe, when I don't want to feel alone. Yup, I read. It's not like easy when you're dealing in the situation where everyone had someone to talk to and you just didn't have one. So, you can read. In other words, you can read a nice book when you want to be alone and don't want to seem like a fool looking at the sky and waiting the time to pass by. Trust me, it doesn't look good.

2. Music
Yeah, reading can be nice, but not everyone love reading. For those people there who don't like reading or just too lazy to read, you can listen to a song. Of course, use a headphone. You don't need to show off your music taste, okay? I know it's good but don't. I love to listen mostly to One Republic's, the Vamp's and the Script's when I am alone. There will be times when you sitting alone waiting for your friends or just some me times. Listening music or perhaps singing along with it can make things more alive. I always pop in my headphones when I sitting in the bus, because I want to do something although I can't really do something in the bus ( I don't want to annoyed the other passengers, you can dance in the bus if you don't mind).

3. Writing or drawing
What other things, I like to do when I am alone are writing and drawing. I know writing and drawing are not really for everyone but they work. I mean, I write something in my notebook. I organize them, I put on some notes there and schedule my time( but scheduling my time doesn't work because I always don't do what I planned to do). My favorite thing to do is draw on my planner or notebook. Drawing makes me feel happy. Not everyone has the talent to draw however it doesn't take a talent to draw. I don't draw a great masterpiece but I like my drawing. It's like I am documenting my life with pictures.

You can do whole lot of things when you're alone, comment down below if you have better ideas to share with me. Daydreaming? Don't ever do that because you might just looked space out and like a total freak sitting there. Imagining stuff? Yeah, I get that idea where you want to be creative but don't look at someone while you're in your imagination world. You might looked creepy and weird when you're staring someone and you don't know you're actually staring them. I know I am not alone. So, don't you feel alone. Alone is just something that everyone deals with it. It's just that some people is better at hiding them. Hiding their loneliness. I hope, I help you guys up! I know I didn't write a lot but here you go! Have a nice day! And thanks for reading!

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Let's talk about brave (teen) + How I be brave

Hello people,
I had been away from blogging for a few days because I got sick(sad face). But, I didn't recover yet.

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There are some kids in school that were labelled 'fearless'. They often seems so brave to do everything. Like everything that we won't dare to do. If you're thinking, "that's me!". Well, then congratulations that you don't have the need to know how to be brave because you already learnt that. I believe nobody in this world is born with bravery right in them. In other way, I don't believe in the myth that said that bravery is born. I know brave can be made. Bravery is caused by the surrounding and the people we connect to. 

Now, as a teen, I am shy. But not that kinda shy that don't talk to anyone. I will say I am normal-ish shy. I am normal when I am with my gang but when I am dealing with new people, I will turn into a turtle. I will hide my head right in my shell when I am feeling strange. I won't talk much with the new friends that I made. That's because I feel safe there. Still, I will try to communicate with them. I usually pretend to be brave. When I need to deal  with something, like public speaking, I will pretend that I am fine with it but I am not in the inside.

You see, we dare to sing with a group of friends but not solo. Maybe, you're brave enough to sing alone in front of the whole school however I am not. I am like all of you. I only dare to sing when I am with a group of friends. Perhaps, I think the fear has been share by my friends when we're singing together. I mean, come on, we're human, it's normal to feel that way.

So, how do you be brave? I can't say that I had experience thousands of challenges since I am still young. Still, what I will say is being brave isn't doing things that are dangerous and harmful. Being brave is you to do what you want without thinking what the others might comment and judge you. Remember this in your mind:

"When you're young, you're crazy NOT to be taking risks and attempting new opportunities. Regret for not trying is much worse than failure. You increase your chances to success when you increase the number of times you try to be successful." -Joel Kent Holland III

I mean the key for me to be brave is that time flies. If you do something stupid, not everyone will remember it. They will just forget. You probably be the only one who remember the stupid things you did in the past. Plus, if you don't do it now, you might also do it later. It's the matter of time. Now that you're young and you have time, so why don't you(we) do everything we want? I don't mean to ask you to do bad and negative things here, okay? Do something that you wanted to try for the longest time. For example, you wanted to cut your long hair off, but everyone said that you look better with long hair, so you didn't cut it. That's a waste of time! The truth is, if you cut now, you will have times to let it grows back. It had been a difficulty to grow back your hair, never. If the short hairstyle is not suitable with you, then it's okay. I promise noone will remember how you look like after a few months. Time will do it for you.

Try things that you want. I need to admit that I am not the bravest girl but to be completely honest, at least I try my best to be brave. I try my best to walk out of my comfort zone although maybe it was merely a few steps. I am proud to say I tried. Do you try anything new today?

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